'I can't pee in public' FAQs

Ever been standing at a public urinal and found you couldn't go? You're not the only one. It even has a name - Paruresis.
Paruresis, shy bladder syndrome
What is it?

Paruresis is a social anxiety disorder which makes the individual physically incapable of passing urine in certain situations.

It is usually about a lack of a certain level of privacy. The individual has no voluntary control over the matter; it is the nervous system that cuts off the ability to urinate.

Also known as 'shy bladder syndrome' paruresis affects many men.

But why can't I pee?

There are probably three types of blokes with paruresis (let us know if you're any different):

  • those who can't piss in a urinal but can use a cubicle
  • those who have difficulty in a cubicle, but are usually OK at home
  • those who have difficulty even at home when other people are around.
Is there a cure?

You can also go to your GP and they can offer therapies such as CBT to help. It is a good starting point as sometimes when you have difficulty peeing it is a sign of a problem with your prostate.

There are also workshops which although do not cure can offer a good starting point to overcoming the problem. You can find workshops and discussion boards with guys with the same problem on the UK Paruresis Trust website.

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Date published 02/04/14
Date of last review 02/04/14
Date of next review 02/04/17


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